Thursday, January 26, 2012
To Push or Not To Push
I love my Jack.
He is smart, with an almost photographic memory. He has a quick wit and a keen eye for detail.
He is also stubborn. His own worst critic. Set in his ways (he's 10, I know you think this is not possible however, anyone who knows Jack completely understands what I am talking about).
He is, in so many ways, like me, (except for that memory thing, that comes straight from his grandaddy).
He challenges me daily. I go from feeling like I know him and how to be the best mother to him, to feeling like I am failing him and not giving him what he needs.
He is a good kid. I know this.
His first reaction to being presented with the opportunity to try something new, is no, absolutely not.
I don't get this on any level. I understand this is how he is made, that he can't really change it about himself. However, I cannot relate. Me, who this year, at age 37, has waterskiied, speed skated and snowboarded - all for the first time in my life.
The thing is, when we force him to try new things (except food, a whole other post, trust me) he likes whatever it might be nine times out of ten.
So do we push him every time?
(I literally don't have the energy)
Or do we let him choose?
I don't have the answer. Nor do I expect that anyone else does. I will keep flying by the seat of my pants on a wing and a prayer and hope the therapy bills (his and mine) don't rob us of our retirement savings.
PS. before you judge me for putting this out there on the Internet, I just want to clarify that I have conversations with him all the time about this very issue. None of this is anything I wouldn't say to him. But if you must judge, go for it, turnabout is fair play.